What's Your Grief Podcast (general)

Grief can prompt many people to stop using substances when that use gets unmanageable. Though it is often an important and healthy decision, giving up alcohol or another substance brings its own set of new struggles and losses. Eleanor shares her personal experience with managing grief in and from sobriety. 

Eleanor's article:
Grief and Sobriety: Discovering Loss Amid Positive Change

Other articles that may be helpful on grief and substance use:

Understanding Grief, Alcohol, and the Brain

Using Alcohol to Feel Feelings

Sober Curious news story

Support getting sober:
SAMHSA’s National Helpline
AA
NA

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). It is open for new members now! Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here and join. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Direct download: Grief_of_sobriety.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:37pm EDT

In this episode we dive into a topic that is estimated to impact as many as 1 in 4 families in the US: the grief of estrangement. Join us as we unpack the rollercoaster of emotions that come with feeling disconnected from loved ones, whether it's family or friends. Estrangements happen for countless reasons, but they can be especially prevalent after bereavement losses. We'll delve into the complexities of estrangement grief, and explore strategies for coping and finding healing along the way. 

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). It is open for new members now! Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here and join. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Losing a pet (and grieving pet) is a profound and often overlooked form of disenfranchised grief. In this episode, we delve into the complexities of why pet loss holds such significance. Beyond the surface, there are layers of emotion and impact that don't always get talked about. We'll share our own experiences saying farewell to furry companions, and also insights from countless individuals we've supported through pet loss over the years.  

A few reminders -- 

We have a free webinar on self-compassion on May 20th. You can sign up here: https://streamyard.com/watch/WP7vXWnap8Vw

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). It opens for new members on May 15th! Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here and join the waitlist to be notified when membership opens. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Direct download: Pet_Loss.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:25pm EDT

Self-compassion can be tough to come by in grief. We compare ourselves to who we were, who we want to be, to others grieving, to how we think grief "should be", and on and on. In this episode, we talk about the challenges of practicing self-compassion, what self-compassion is (and isn't) and some tools for navigating grief with self compassion. 

We have a free webinar on self-compassion on May 20th. You can sign up here: https://streamyard.com/watch/WP7vXWnap8Vw

For more info on self-compasssion, Kristen Neff has a great website: https://self-compassion.org/

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). It opens for new members on May 15th! Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here and join the waitlist to be notified when membership opens. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Direct download: Self_compassion.mp3
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In this episode, we dive deep into the practical challenges of handling grief triggers. Join us as we share both our professional advice and personal stories on navigating grief's everyday trigger —from anniversaries and special places to unexpected everyday moments. We'll discuss strategies for managing emotions at work, during social gatherings, and through significant life events.

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Category:general -- posted at: 2:52pm EDT

There are many complicated and unexpected grief experiences. One that comes up time and again is why sometimes we expect to cry and . . . don't. It's more common than you'd think and in this episode we're chatting about why. 

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Category:general -- posted at: 12:36pm EDT

People are complicated. Human relationships are complicated. There are many people in our lives with whom we have love-hate relationships with.  We don't just grieve when the people we have positive relationships die. We can also grieve people who harmed us, caused us pain, and were abusive. There are many reasons why grieving these people can bring up unique challenges. In this episode we talk about those difficulties and what you can do to cope. 

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Category:general -- posted at: 12:38pm EDT

You hear all the time that grief isn't linear, but that doesn't change the surprises in the ways it ebbs and flows over time. In this episode we talk about the predictably unpredictably cycles of grief and the ways grief continues wax and wane as it intersects with so many other aspects of life. But we start with a good old chat about trying to get our sh*t together and just how hard that can be. 

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Category:general -- posted at: 4:57pm EDT

In this episode, we talk about grieving a friend. Litsa has had four friends die in the last four years. As a grief therapist and someone who is not new to grief, it has left her reflecting on some of the unique and unexpected aspects of these losses. Though we're primarily focusing on when a friend dies in this episode, you can check out this article about grieving a friend following a falling out or estrangement. 

If you want to read more about the death of a friend you can check out these articles:
https://whatsyourgrief.com/when-your-best-friend-dies/
https://whatsyourgrief.com/30-quotes-about-the-loss-of-a-friend/

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Category:general -- posted at: 2:55pm EDT

Continuing Bonds Theory is both one of our favorite grief theories and also a griever favorite. And yet it's been ages since we've done an episode about it. So long, in fact, that a new book and a fair bit of new research has come out that has further shaped how with think about continuing bonds. If you're grieving and you haven't heard of continuing bonds, we think you'll probably like it. And if you're familiar with continuing bonds, we hope it will remind you of some of your connections and also bring a few new insights. 

Books referenced in the episode:
Continuing Bonds: New Understandings of Grief
Continuing Bonds in Bereavement

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Category:general -- posted at: 9:17pm EDT

If you've ever wondered why our grief support isn't broken down by type of loss, today you'll find your answer. In this episode we talk about the question "what's your grief?". Specifically, we break down why, for us, this question has always had less to do with who died and more to do with the unique nature of your relationship with that person and the specific experiences and challenges of your grief. 

If you like the podcast, you'll love WYG Grief Support Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support. You can learn more here. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here.  https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

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Category:general -- posted at: 1:22pm EDT

In this episode, we address a question from a bereaved mom who didn't see her daughter after her daughter's death. She finds herself wondering if she should have fought harder to see her daughter. This brings up so many questions held by grievers no matter what decisions they made around a death -- often some variation of "should I have done something differently and would that have eased this pain?"

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The WYG Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better) is open for new members from now through March 1st! Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support! https://whatsyourgrief.com/online-grief-community/

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here. https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll love our book! Available in print, ebook, or on audible. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 4:48pm EDT

This week we respond to a question from one of our Hub members.  Grief anxiety is very real and, unfortunately, the very connections that can ease anxiety in grief can also be the source of that anxiety. We're chatting about that complicated experience after loss when you find yourself fearful of creating new relationships for fear of losing people while also wanting connection and fearing being alone. The thoughts and feeling are so complicated. 

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The WYG Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better) is open for new members from now through March 1st! Support the podcast and get TONS more grief support! https://whatsyourgrief.com/online-grief-community/

Sign up for our free February grief support webinar here. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here. https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll love our book! Available in print, ebook, or on audible. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 9:48am EDT

In this episode, we dive into the world of grief in the digital era. Specifically we talk about what it really means to express sorrow online and the frustrating misconceptions that grief posts are just for attention. Some people turn to social media for support during tough times and genuine empathy means looking past the many assumptions about what's behind these posts. 

Sign up for our free February grief support webinar here. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

Join the WYG Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). It opens for new members four times per year (next on March 1, 2024) and you can join the waitlist - https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/141b04f720

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here. https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll love our book! Available in print, ebook, or on audible. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 2:51pm EDT

In this episode, Litsa and Mary chat about what it means to 'befriend grief'. This includes plenty of thoughts about how modern western culture shapes our beliefs about death and grief, with a healthy dose of how we try to counteractive some of the pressures to pathologize grief. 

In this episode, Mary mentions the follow books that have had a big impact on her grief lens:
The Wild Edge of Sorrow
The Smell of Rain on Dust

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. 

Join the WYG Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). It opens for new members four times per year (next on March 1, 2024) and you can join the waitlist - https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/141b04f720

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here. https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll love our book! Available in print, ebook, or on audible. 

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In this episode respond to a question about feeling relief after a death. But first, we talk about the recent Vox article The Race to Optimize Grief and the wild wild west of how AI is changing the way people mourn. 

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. You can read more about relief in grief here

Join the WYG Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). It opens for new members four times per year (next on March 1, 2024) and you can join the waitlist - https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/141b04f720

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here. https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll love our book! Available in print, ebook, or on audible. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 4:30am EDT

In this episode we talk about a new article on the website that Litsa wrote about a concept she's termed "paradoxical grief". It's the often-confusing experience of grieving a loss that is both anticipated but also sudden and shocking. We talk about this experience that is both incredibly common and yet also rarely talked about in grief, in part because it can feel difficult to explain. 

You can check out the article here: https://whatsyourgrief.com/the-paradoxical-grief-of-anticipated-sudden-death/

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. You can read more about anticipatory grief here. You can read more about traumatic and unexpected loss here. 

Join the WYG Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). It opens for new members four times per year (next on March 1, 2024) and you can join the waitlist - https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/141b04f720

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here. https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll love our book! Available in print, ebook, or on audible. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 11:42am EDT

Come to the free Grieving in the New Year Webinar with Litsa this Sunday - sign up here -- https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/432a2df1e7

This week we're talking about all the surprising challenges of facing the new year in grief. Everything from the passage of time to a Hub member question about what it means to 'live your best life' without fear of forgetting. 

The book Litsa mentioned in the episode is Wintering: The Power of Rest and Retrea in Difficult Times (though she hasn't read it, so don't think of this as an endorsement. It's just a book she wants to read!)

Visit whatsyourgrief.com for hundreds of free articles we've written about all things grief and loss. If you liked this episode, this is a good place to start. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-and-the-fear-of-letting-go/ 

Join the WYG Hub (it's our griever member community - think of it as our Patreon, but a zillion times better). Opens for new members four times per year (next on March 1, 202) but you can join the waitlist now - https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/141b04f720

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

You can also make a donation here at any time to help us keep the lights on. 

Get Lessons to Write On: A Guided Grief Journaling Intensive here. https://whatsyourgrief.ck.page/products/lessons-to-write-on-grief-journaling

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll love our book! Availaable in print, ebook, or on audible. 

 

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Category:general -- posted at: 12:48pm EDT

We're back with an episode about - you guessed it - grief at the holidays! Sure, we've talked about this basically every year here on the podcast. Yes, we have approximately a zillion articles about it on the website. AND we still have more to say on the topic! Because there is simply so much that the holidays bring up when it comes to loss. Other holiday grief support: For a lot more practical and creative support, watch our free webinar on coping with grief at the holidays here. Find tons of articles about coping with grief at the holidays here. If you're looking for a last minute gift for someone grieving in your life, Bookshop.org (where you can support your local independent bookstore!) Barnes & Noble Amazon Books A Million Indiebound Hudson Booksellers Powell's Come hang out and get some grief support! Learn more and join the waitlist for our Griever Hub here. If you're a grief professional, join our grief professionals learning and networking community here.
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Category:general -- posted at: 8:42am EDT

In this episode we're going deep, talking about a very common but rarely discussed issue in grief: existential dread. Loss can make us face big questions about life and purpose. It makes us face our own mortality. This week we talk about what it's like to gaze long into the abyss. We reflect on our own discomfort with death (and our comfort with that discomfort). 

We don't have ads or a patreon. What helps us most is if you join the WYG hub for grief learning and connection. Open for summer cohort through May 31, 2023 and will then reopen in the autumn. It is only $8.33/month if you join annually and it is a big part of what keeps the podcast going - https://whatsyourgrief.com/online-grief-community/ 

You can also make a donation here any time to help us keep the lights on. 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll like the book! And you can get it in print ebook or audible. 

Direct download: existential_pod.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 4:20am EDT

May is here and that means the looming grief triggers of Mother's Day and Father's Day are upon us. In this episode we cover all the basics - why it's hard, who is impacted (spoiler alert: it isn't just bereaved parents and bereaved children), and some suggestions for coping. 

We have tons of Mother's Day and Father's Day articles and support over on What's Your Grief.  Start with some of our favorites.

Other mentions from the episode: Honest Obituaries site.

We don't have ads or a patreon. What helps us most is if you join the WYG member community for grief education, connection, accountability, a grief book club & more.  It is only $8.33/month if you join annually and it is a big part of what keeps the podcast going - https://whatsyourgrief.com/online-grief-community/ 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll like the book! And you can get it in print ebook or audible. 

Direct download: Mothers_Day_Fathers_Day.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 12:53pm EDT

Anxiety is one of those grief experiences that is incredibly common and yet often catches people off guard. If you experienced difficult levels of anxiety before a loss, it can feel worse than ever as you navigate grief. And even if you never struggled with managing anxiety before, your loss can bring it up. In this episode we talk about the relationship between grief and anxiety, some common reasons for it, and offer some suggestions on how to manage it. 

Here are the two of the anxiety workbooks we mentioned:
Anxiety and Phobia Workbook
Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life

We don't have ads or a patreon. What helps us most is if you join the WYG member community for grief education, connection, accountability, a grief book club & more.  It is only $8.33/month if you join annually and it is a big part of what keeps the podcast going - https://whatsyourgrief.com/online-grief-community/ 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll like the book! And you can get it in print ebook or audible. 

 

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Category:general -- posted at: 5:59pm EDT

This week we're reflecting on what's were doing here. Not in the existential sense (though we're certainly always angsting about that on some level). But in the sense that we're curious what you want to hear more of. We hope you'll give a listen and then answer these 3 (very simple) questions to help guide our future episodes. https://form.jotform.com/230677758851066

We don't have ads or a patreon. What helps us most is if you join the WYG member community for grief education, connection, accountability, a grief book club & more.  It is only $8.33/month if you join annually and it is a big part of what keeps the podcast going - https://whatsyourgrief.com/online-grief-community/ 

If you're a grief professional, we have a community for you too. https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-professionals-community/

Also, if you like the podcast we're pretty sure you'll like the book! And you can get it in print ebook or audible. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 10:42am EDT

Though there have been significant losses in our lives in the decades since, each of us looks back to the deaths of a parent early in life as formative to our lives and specifically our work in grief. In this episode, we reflect on the ways those remote personal losses still surprise us - even now. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 4:54pm EDT

Litsa's flying solo this week, answering questions about grief submitted on Instagram. Talking about supporting partners, siblings, navigating grief conversations with friends, plushies, and more!

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Category:general -- posted at: 11:00am EDT

This week we were feeling the post-Thanksgiving emotional grief hangover. That means musings on family, holidays past and present, and the ways we grieve the things we assumed would always be part of our lives, but aren't. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 9:53am EDT

This week we talk about yet another unexpected aspect of grieving - realizing that we in many ways grieve the past, the present, and the future. This expands on a few things we talked about in the nonfinite grief episode, so make sure you catch that one too. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 5:20pm EDT

This week we're answering a listener question about how to cope when the differences in family grief styles start to cause strain between family members. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 10:46am EDT

In this episode we talk about the little-discussed, but incredibly common experience of nonfinite grief. This is an experience that can happen after a death, but also after countless nondeath losses. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 4:11pm EDT

This week we're discussing when and why grief can leave you with a mountain of ugly, mean, and messy feelings. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 10:59pm EDT

You've sent us your grief questions; we've done our best to share some answers. Or at least talk through some thoughts. How do you handle it when people make assumptions about your grief that are all wrong? How do you strengthen continued bonds? (And some rambling on sleep to boot). 

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Category:general -- posted at: 9:56pm EDT

In this episode, Eleanor and Litsa talk about a question that has created some disagreement on social media recently: do we 'recover' from grief? 

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Category:general -- posted at: 6:42pm EDT

Our book is available for pre-order (and you can even get a free digital download companion thank you here for pre-ordering). Order it today for delivery on the release date - September 27, 2022:

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Category:general -- posted at: 4:38pm EDT

Our book is available for pre-order here (with a free digital workbook download if you pre-order!)

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Category:general -- posted at: 8:19am EDT

Our book is available for pre-order here (with a free digital workbook download if you pre-order!)

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Category:general -- posted at: 11:06am EDT

Needless to say, it's been a while! But we're back with an exciting announcement. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 10:07am EDT

After a death we do a lot of looking backwards. We think about what we should have known or done differently. We imagine a different world, and ideal world, if things had just taken another path. This becomes wound up in our grief - we beat ourselves up for the past based on things we can only know in the present. In this episode we talk through what that looks like, why we do it, and how to avoid getting sucked too far down the blackholes of counterfactual thinking and hindsight bias in grief. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 8:57am EDT

What we believe about grief often starts from a young age. We get messages from family, friends, community, and the media about what grief is 'supposed' to look like. Those messages become beliefs and those beliefs have a very real impact on the way we judge our grief (and often ourselves!). Today we're talking about the ins and outs - where to we get these ideas about grieving and how to they affect us?

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Category:general -- posted at: 9:49am EDT

Terms like delayed grief and absent grief get thrown around a lot. Recently, people have been suggesting that distancing may be putting people's grief 'on hold'. In this episode, we talk about whether grief is ever 'on hold', how external circumstances can have a very real impact on grieving, and why delayed grief can sometimes happen. Oh, and we do some musing about our own grief. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 2:48pm EDT

In this episode we ramble and reflect out loud a bit, so don't say we didn't warn you.  Thinking about the ways grief has us doing mental math calculations up, down, and sideways. How old would he be now? She's been gone longer than we were married . . . How many more years until I am the age he was when he died? And on and on. Talking about grief math and the what-ifs and doing some personal processing of our own grieving as we go. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 12:57pm EDT

Though positive psychology may sound like a field that is all about just thinking happy thoughts, nothing could be further from the truth. This well-researched, practical approach to boosting well-being is a WYG when it comes to grief and coping. In this episode we're talking about PERMA and challenging you to some momentum from the school of positive psychology. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 2:46am EDT

When the world changes, the way we operate in the world has to change. Grief forces us to make new decisions about the things we do, the things we don't do, and how we cope. Today we talk about how so many of those decisions may feel good in the short term, but often don't serve us in the long-run. Avoidance sounds like it is obvious, but sometimes it hides in corners we don't even recognize. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 4:38pm EDT

When a lot of time has passed after a loss, we hear all sorts of questions - is it too late for counseling? Is it too late to reconnect with people I lost touch with? Is it too late to ask for stories and memories? We're pretty strong believers that, in grief, it is never too late. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 10:55am EDT

There is a lot of discussion right now about the many ways people are experiencing grief - the grief of death related losses, but also many other types of grief that are coming up in the world. Today we're sorting through 7 types of grief we think may be relevant and impacting you right now. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 11:03am EDT

We received a question recently about talking to children about people who have died, especially those people the child never met. We get questions like this a lot. Is it normal? Is it okay? Will it screw up my kids? The quick answers: yes! yes! no! For the long answers, tune in. 

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Category:general -- posted at: 7:12pm EDT

We did an "Ask Us Anything" on Instagram and turns out your grief questions were a little too big to answer on Instagram. So today we are answering some of your pressing questions about grief - from widow dating to friends disappearing after a death, we're covering some tough topics in less than 35 minutes. Have a question you would like to see us cover? Email us at whatsyourgrief@gmail.com

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Category:general -- posted at: 4:26pm EDT

With over 150 million social media users in the US alone, we can no longer conceptualize grief support and support systems without considering online social interaction.

As the co-founders of multiple online spaces, we believe online platforms provide grieving people with powerful tools for connecting and coping in the wake of loss. However, just like in real life, online spaces and interactions can, at times, be difficult to navigate.

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:34pm EDT

Pixar must have a secret deal with Kleenex. They seemed determined to bring audiences to tears with every movie they make. This is fine by us, though, because these tender and relatable films make great teachable moments for children and adults alike.

In this episode of the WYG podcast, we take a look at themes related to grief and death in Pixar's latest movie, Coco.


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Category:general -- posted at: 7:34pm EDT

We're back after a brief hiatus with an update on WYG and our plans for the future of this podcast. We're especially interested in talking about grief in current events, pop-culture, and the world around us and the ways these depictions help us and hurt.

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Category:general -- posted at: 1:58pm EDT

Sigmund Freud first proposed the concept of ‘defense mechanisms’ as an element of his influential theory of personality. For those of you who took Psych 101, think back to the Id, Ego, and Superego in which all elements, with the exception of the ego, reside in the unconscious. Since their introduction, the concept of defense mechanisms has been expanded quite a bit, and they are still used today to try to understand certain behavioral patterns. In this episode of the What’s Your Grief Podcast, we discuss how people sometimes use defense mechanisms to cope with grief.

 

0:00 - 4:30: Introductions

Ongoing and Upcoming eCourses

Upcoming events

4:30 - 29:00: Using Defense Mechanisms in Grief

Denial

Regression

Projection

Displacement

Intellectualization

Undoing

Humor

Sublimation

Altruism

Post: Using Defense Mechanisms in Grief

Post: 31 Psychological Defense Mechanisms via Psychologist World

 

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Category:general -- posted at: 11:38am EDT

Many people have to return to work within days after experiencing the death of a loved one. Others have a little more flexibility, but must eventually take the step to return to the workplace and workforce.

In this podcast the girls of What's Your Grief discuss returning to work after the death of a loved one. They address some of the common barriers and offer suggestions for reducing stress during this transition.

0:00 - 5:40: Announcements

5:40 - 15:00: Things we've watched and read about grief

15:00 - 35:00: Returning to work after the death of a loved one

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Category:general -- posted at: 1:48pm EDT

Season 2: Episode 3: Dating a Widower and Other Topics

0:00 - 5:00 : NFDA Conference Impressions

The intersection between grief support and funeral homes

5:00 - 13:45: Talk of a Lifetime

Have the Talk of a Lifetime: Conversations around family history, legacy, and how people want to be remembered 

Talk of a Lifetime cards and conversation starters

13:45 - 15:50: National Alliance for Grieving Children

New book: When Someone Dies: A Child-Caregiver Activity Book

Child Grief Awareness Month: November is Child Grief Awareness Month

15:50 - 19: 15: Grief in the Media

This is Us

19:15 - 32:00: Reader Question - Dating a widower

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Category:general -- posted at: 1:57pm EDT

In this episode of the What's Your Grief podcast we discuss the new grief website, Grief in Six Words, adjusting to the school year after a death, answer a reader's question about grief counseling and discuss a few times that grief has made us feel like mean and ugly people.

  • Minute 0:00 - 3:00: Introduction
  • Minute 3:00 - 10:00: Grief in Six Words Website
  • Minute 10:00 - 15:30: Update on the WYG Bookclub
  • Minute 15:30 - 21:30: Adjusting to the school year after a death
  • Minute 21:30 - 26:30: Reader Question
  • Minute 26:30 - 33:00: A few of the times grief has made us feel like ugly or mean people

If you have a grief question that you would like to hear answered on the podcast, or a recommendation for a resource, book, song, movie, etc, please email us at whatsyourgrief@gmail.com

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Category:general -- posted at: 2:30pm EDT

Loneliness in Grief and Other Topics

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 1 of the What's Your Grief Podcast. This season we're going to shake up our format a little and cover several different topics during each 30 minute episode. In this episode we talk about some of the new resources WYG has to offer; grief reading and movies; and we discuss the concept of loneliness in grief.

  • Minute 0:00 - 5:00: Introductions
  • Minute 5:00 - What's new with WYG
  • Minute 10:30 - Resource shout out
  • Minute 12:15 - Grief books and movies
  • Minute 16:00 - The unique loneliness of grief

If you have a grief question that you would like to hear answered on the podcast, or a recommendation for a resource, book, song, movie, etc, please email us at whatsyourgrief@gmail.com

 

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:49pm EDT

In this episode of the What’s Your Grief podcast, we answer your questions about coping with holiday grief.

  • I’m worried the holidays will be very sad and glum. How can I be strong for everyone?
  • My loved one just died and now the holidays are here, what do I do?
  • The anniversary of my loved one’s death is right around the holidays, what do I do?
  • Is it okay if I skip the holidays altogether?
  • How do I politely respond to people who ask why I don’t like/celebrate the holidays?
  • How do I deal with feeling like a third wheel at holiday celebrations?
  • How do I support my grieving children at the holidays?

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Category:general -- posted at: 1:27pm EDT

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